Black people meet interracial dating
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Why are black folks so infatuated with interracial dating? Of course, all black folks aren’t obsessed with interracial dating.However, it seems like almost daily I come across a news post, and columns in magazines and blogs dedicated to black folks, speaking about the glory of dating outside of the black community.
And if they are not expounding on your personal choice on whom you date, than they are highlighting all the wonderful interracial couples in Hollywood.
There are swirling sites run by black men and women and even a forthcoming coming film, which hopes to appeal to the “Rainbeau” dater in all of us..
You don’t see white therapists or white relationship experts or other white folks with alphabets behind their names and a platform, spouting the virtues of dating black men and women.
Let’s face it: when it comes to reporting about “Jungle Fever,” this virus is only at epidemic proportions in the African American press.
But while the topic has no doubt been beaten to death by the black media there are still no shortages of articles directed towards interracial relationships.
So obviously these stories are very popular, which is why these publications continue to put them out. are still looking, waiting and idolizing the white savior.
After all, stories mean page clicks, and page clicks equates to dollars. Yet science says that some of the same problems we find within the community can also be found interracially: In fact, the rate of divorce and domestic violence is much higher within interracial relationships and the incidence of spousal homicide is 7.7 higher in interracial relationships than in monoracial relationships.
And if there are folks willing to read it, than you can place the blame solely on black media for continuing to cater to their audience. So much for thinking that the milk is less spoiled on the other side.
Which leads me to ask: If the color of the person we choose to date doesn’t matter, why do we talk about it so much? Truth is, championing dating interracially to empower the black community, particularly black women, is no more logical or rational than the colorblind racists, who believe that breeding ourselves into one in-between race will fix the world (yeah, like that worked for the Chinese and the Japanese).
Here is the standard disclaimer: I don’t have a problem with two folks of different races – or same gender for that matter – hooking up. How we empower our people is by teaching self-love and by erasing those mental chains that tell us that “we” are inherently bad.
Some people really do date outside of their race out of love and not some underlying motive. We heal the world by recognizing cultural differences, and yes skin tone, and by ensuring that our differences do not lead to inequality. However, if you are using love and sex as some sort of political statement, position for advancement or weapon of revenge and conquest, than you are no better, and odds are, you’re more part of the problem than you think.
Okay, now that that’s out of the way; it’s the other would-be Rainbeau daters, who bother the hell out of me.