Dating a girl with no confidence
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Most people with low-confidence and low-self esteem, think that confidence is about thinking you're good at something, and self-esteem is about thinking you're a good or worthy person in general.
The only difference between the two is that one gets her fix, and the other doesn't.It is the habit of self-judgment, more than the judgment itself, that characterizes people with low self-confidence and low self-esteem.It’s that habit of going into your mind and demanding reassurance that you are good or worthy that is the root of low self-esteem, and its mirror image, arrogance. Confidence is a state of non-worry, of being present and occupied with the world as it is, and not as it ought to be, or as we judge it to be.True self-esteem is the state of accepting oneself, for good and for bad.I remember being nineteen years old in my first week of University when I first heard the advice to “just be confident” when talking to women.Before I started figuring things out for myself, “just be confident” and “just be yourself” were the only two pieces of dating advice that I had ever really gotten, and it was frustrating because it didn't give me any sort of real guidance on what I should actually do. As a 19-year-old, I hadn't really achieved anything except getting into a good university, which only made me equal to every single person on campus.
I was skinny, awkward, untested, unsure of who I was and what my talents were.I had no real foundations on which to base any sense of accomplishment.I saw other, more confident guys on campus, and wondered: "what do they have to be so confident about?" It took me many years to realize this secret, that I'm going to share with you now.Hopefully this will save you a lot of the trouble that I went through.Before I tell you the secret though, you have to realize the error that most people make.