Hispanic culture dating
Hispanic culture dating
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single girl in possession of a job in Colombia must be in want of a date. Ostensibly a bar for foreigners to participate in a language exchange with Colombians, and actually a great way to make friends, after about 9pm it morphs into a free-for-all speed dating service between gringos and locals.All across the city of Bogotá, and indeed the rest of the country, gringa girls living and working in Colombia are pairing up with local boys – at a staggering rate! Ask anyone about it, go and check it out, but don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Add that to the Harlequin romance-fueled Western imagination and idealisation of a Latin lover, and ! Rather than dating multiple people casually, including almost strangers, like we see in shows like In Colombia, the relationship between men and women affects the dating culture.As I mentioned in my last article, male-female platonic friendships are considered far less common, particularly if the pair in question are single.So, even while you’re not in a relationship with someone just because you went on a date, it’s important to know that going for a casual drink with a guy would be considered a date in Colombia.Although my own experience of dating in Colombia is really pretty limited (sob), I’ve canvassed friends of both sexes and have compiled a brief list of tips for him and tips for her in order to avoid heartbreak, dodge the STIs and have yourself a merry little Christmas.Girls are very unlikely to approach you, or make the first move.That isn’t to say that they’re uninterested though.
Keep alert for eyelash batting and an ear out for high pitched giggling.
A dinner is not indicative of sexual interest here. Therefore, it can be tricky to spot a cheater or a player. Colombian and British cultures, particularly when it comes to genders, are spectacularly different, no matter how relatable they seem. Trust your instincts – except when you’re wasted – and be sensible.
Hugging, kissing and canoodling in public will all be required. Be warned – when out with your girl, talking to a female friend or looking at a stranger in a skirt might result in a crazed bitchfest. Seriously – do not just assume that you and your girlfriend can stop using condoms because you’ve decided you’re ‘exclusive.’ Very few girls here are popping those precious little pills every morning. Try not to get taken in or carried away by a dark eyed Don Juan who flashes his cash. That is not to say that you should necessarily let him, or think you’ll insult him by refusing. He’ll probably appreciate you insisting on splitting the bill! But to be polite here, people automatically say, “I’ll ring you back,” even if they have no intention of it – it’s not taken as literally as it is in England. Try to avoid any spectacular gaffes or broken hearts, always use protection with your Latin lover, and remember to have a good time!
And it’s not frowned upon here the way it is back in the UK. It’s the opposite here – no matter how hard the guy tries to fight it, there’s a machista part of him that wants you to hold out and let him chase you. What would pass for light hearted banter in the UK, might well make a Colombian question his own masculinity.
I think it’s sexy if done with the right person and food selection (When eating ribs respect the space).
Unlike American women, don’t expect Latin women to thank you for your chivalry, it’s expected.