Scared of dating after break up
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The dude doesn't necessarily walk away looking like a bad guy because, poor him, he's just scared.I mean, how could a person possibly be mad at a guy for being scared and liking or loving someone sooo much that he had to let her go because of it? He gets to walk away from the relationship without anyone being mad at him And regarding the guy that really is telling the truth and has so much fear and so many issues around commitment, the question Hussey asks is, "Do you really want to be involved with a guy with that much emotional baggage anyways?
Because if a guy is into you, no matter how scared he is, he won't run -- he'll stick around and try to work through it, because his love for you and need to have you in his life trumps his fear.
Here's the cold, hard truth (and one I have had to painfully face myself in the past): If he's too scared to commit, it means he's willing to let you go.
I've asked many men about this and they all agree that no matter how freaked out or scared they are, if they love a woman and want to be with her, they will do whatever it takes to be with her -- they will not let her go, no matter what.
There's an article I love about dating written by Mark Manson called "F*ck Yes or No." The whole premise behind it is that we spend way too much time in dating trying to manipulate, navigate and figure out the gray area, when really, if there's any gray area at all, we have a problem.
I happened to turn to the "Today Show" the other morning just as Matthew Hussey, a relationship expert, was giving advice to a woman whose story, unfortunately, is way too familiar to way too many of us.
This woman said she had been dating a guy for a while.
He had told her she was the "one," he was in touch with her daily, he introduced her to his friends and family as his girlfriend... But then a week ago, she got a text from him simply saying, "I really like you, but I'm too scared.I need some time and space." She hasn't heard from him since then, and needless to say, is devastated. Of course Hussey addressed the awful way of breaking up with someone via text, but I want to address what he said regarding the "I'm scared" excuse, as it is something that will forever change the way I view a situation in the future if a man uses that reasoning for needing space or breaking up.And I hope it will help other women out there see it in a different light as well so that the next time it happens, they can move on quickly.Hussey started off by saying that probably only 1 out of every 10 guys who uses that excuse is even telling the truth about being scared.I'll address the one who is telling the truth in a second, but Hussey says he's doesn't buy the "I'm scared" excuse, not even for a minute.He said using that excuse as a reason for breaking up is a Jedi mind trick that guys play on women, because it gives them an easy out; they get to walk away get sympathy!