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That being said, after recently undergoing gender-confirming surgery, I've been making a concerted effort to put myself out there and meet new people. And online dating as a transgender woman is pretty much a modern-day Greek tragedy.
A little bit jaded and slightly pessimistic, I reluctantly decided to embark on a social experiment of sorts.
The reality of navigating dating world is that has baggage that they're weary about revealing to potential suitors.
At the end of the day, we're all human beings who want to be accepted and appreciated in our entirety.
And the idea of having someone reject you because of a fundamental component of your identity is daunting enough to make a person avoid dating all together.
So as a young transwoman living in New York City, I've always been pretty freaking nervous about how guys could react when I reveal to them that I was born biologically male, even though I identify and live my life as female.
After all, transwomen are all too often beaten and murdered for no reason other than their gender identities.
That's exactly why the idea of online dating appealed to me despite it's inherent shittiness and utter lack of romance.
It opened up a space where I could disclose my transgender status to men from the safety of my phone without having to worry about putting myself in a potentially violent or dangerous situation (which is the reality for all of us transwomen).
I decided to reveal my truth to men who I had matched with on Tinder and their responses were not always what I expected...
Of course there was the expected invasiveness, as you can see in the exchanges below.
(PROTIP: Instead of asking a transwoman about her genitals right off the bat, try asking about her hobbies.) Even though transgender issues are coming to light in the mainstream media, many people don't know how to properly approach a transgender woman or how to redirect the conversation once they discover that the person they are flirting with is transgender. Here are some general rules that may just help you out if you end up in this type of situation: 1. So often, trans bodies are dissected and scrutinized. ask us invasive questions that you would not ask a genetic woman.
People think it's acceptable to ask us about our medical and surgical decisions in colloquial discussions. Trans individuals do not want to be remembered by the names and identifications that were imposed upon us at birth without our own autonomy and consent. Society tells men that if they are attracted to a transgender woman, that they are less masculine and perhaps even gay. If your senses of masculinity or heterosexuality become threatened, do not take it out on us. Yes, we transwomen have undergone some remarkably unique life experiences that genetic women never will.