Widows interested in dating aged fifty tosixty
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I knew not everyone was interested in dating a widow.
And did I mention I still spend holidays with my in-laws?Sitting down to Christmas dinner asking your girlfriend's late husband's mother-in-law to pass the peas isn't a Christmas tradition most men would welcome.But I'd like to tell other young widows to stay strong.Your complicated social life will grow less awkward with time.Before most of my friends were married, I was already widowed -- not to mention, partially orphaned.So while my pals were busy planning weddings or preparing to have kids, I was setting up a scholarship fund in my husband's memory and trying to figure out what to do with his clothes.
I'd occasionally meet elderly widows -- my grandmother's friends mostly. I knew none of them wanted to see me suffer and they couldn't do anything to lessen the pain.
Many of them would offer condolences and words of empathy like, "I know just what you're going through." And while I'm sure losing a spouse after 50-plus years of marriage is heart-wrenching, I'd secretly feel envious that they got to grow old together. Sometimes -- plenty of times -- people said the "wrong" thing.
Well-meaning people would say things like, "Well, you don't look like a widow." Even friends that I saw on a regular basis, would say things like, "Oh, I expected you to look different." It was as if people thought widowhood would transform me into an old hag. They'd unintentionally offer words that hurt more than they helped.
But that ring on my finger led to plenty of awkward conversations. My favorite was when people would say things like, "You'll marry again someday," as if finding another husband was just like replacing an old car. After a few years, people tried to set me up on dates.
At large social gatherings people asked questions like, "What does your husband do for work? " I dreaded the look on their face when I explained I was a widow. While it was kind of them to do so, I wasn't all that interested. Do I blurt out "I'm Amy and I'm a widow" right up front to see if they're still interested in dating me?
Or do I wait until the third date to give them the big reveal?